There's a dichotomy between coquettish & mature-elegance. Playful & a tease, &/or highly regarded by many for some quality of theirs.

Many of them are disconnected from their emotions despite their high–above-average cognitive empathy.

Disconnect plays a prominent role; either reclusive in nature, put up on a pedastal they must maintain, non-humanity, or simply put in a position of power.