I wish I could give a definitive answer, but I can't even recall when I started dating my partner . . .

What I do know is that most of the people I've pulled, that I know of, were in my friend group; so, mayhaps the key is to make friends & don't overthink it? Surely your bonds will naturally run its course from there.

I don't know how I pulled 2 people. They just came into my life. First one confessed to me and the second one I confessed to with my first one.

deadass, im convinced its like a social experiement

No clue...

But it's okay, I've been single for almost 2 years now and I'm doing good! Just taking care of my critters in peace. ^^