I feel like a lot of anti-lesboy stuff is thinly veiled prejudice against non-binary people, intentional or not. Like, I call myself a lesbian. I am not a woman. I am non-binary. I do not want to be seen as a woman and being seen as a woman distresses me. And people go and say "why do you identify as a lesbian if you're trans male, and don't want to be seen as a girl" but how is that different for me? A transneutral person assigned female and perceived as female my entire life using the term "lesbian" not wanting to be seen as a girl. I use the label because it's what fits right. How am I any different from a transmale lesbian? I feel like people say I'm valid but not transmen because I'm non-binary and they haven't let go of their internal invalidation of non-binary identities and still see me as female despite everything. I hope this made some sense
This made complete sense, I agree. Being a nonbinary gaybian myself, my identity really confuses people sometimes. People bring up the argument that being a Lesbian is mnlnm. But what about nonbinary people who have man somewhere in their gender identity? What about nonbinary people who aren't men, but prefer people to refer to them as a man, simply because it's a term they like? What about nonbinary transmascs or nonbinary people that use he/him? What about a nonbinary person who could easily pass off as a man? Nonbinarys on T? Nonbinary people that transition? Exactly where does the queer community draw the line at what makes someone a man or not? I've never understood that. If people can abolish between the lines of gender, we can do the exact same with sexuality. You can't do one without the other