"this sounds like a joke" as in you may not take me serious but I am fully serious . .

ok so this sounds like a joke: mental illness.
hoarding is a big thing, and a lot of queer individuals or ill people find ways of coping that can't be considered 'unsafe'/'dangerous', this is actually unsafe and can be harmful.
will I stop an individual from hoarding things such as identities and labels? no.
for me personally, I do research -- research so hard I lose sleep, so hard I randomly have facts that I remember and give out. and I deem this hoarding safe, would I reccommend it in general . . nuhuhh, but it's better than going out of your way for other things.
I also find that indivuals, like understanding not just themselves but others.
a sense of control is in it, obviously.
but it is part of all sorts of issues, and maybe trauma!

at times, it isn't used for a definitive label, its used as a placeholder for when they think they have the right of usage or even when they crave something but don't believe in themselves.
men who are considered feminine may start to see themselves as such, if they were ever teased or bullied because of attributes physical or mentally or even personality wise. . this is not too take away from the situation, but to get others to understand them.
gender non conforming men, exist most likely due to the inability of conforming to what society wants, or the want of something else -- and sexuality can also be non-conforming I believe. -- to have your own way is to adjust to what you need & want, i'd recommend reading or going into non-judgmental queer spaces to find these sorts of people.
I myself am GNC but SNC can be rare, and so I find myself searching -- or even harboring creations of them because there isn't a wide enough explanation on me - which I want due to control issues based off deep trauma.

boom!