That it's complex, and others can have their system functioning differently from what may be considered usual.

I've seen some people doubt the validity of other systems for presenting their identity in a very stylized (whatever the term for that is) — saying that DID/OSDD is a disorder, not something used for aesthetics. That it appears as if other systems are just roleplaying as alters.

I do get those people's side, how it feels quite sad seeing other people who have DID/OSDD appear to be even enjoying it. When for others the dissociation, amnesia, identity confusion, constant conflict with alters, and other issues that come with it are extremely distressing. Far from something that they can find enjoyable or freeing if they were to embrace having.

But personally, I don't think one can say that the other is less valid just because they don't seem to be suffering with it on a certain degree. Those people who can often and openly present their alters online in their own aesthetics may be using that way to cope? Online can sometimes feel like a safe space for alters to express themselves, as it may feel too vulnerable to do so IRL. Maybe they've gone through recovery or learned how to find peace with their alters? Plus they are not obligated to share how they might actually be suffering from the disorder just to prove the validity of their system. I don't think anyone can easily judge someone just based on what can be seen on the surface.